> Any got any advice on how to re-norm grandparents? I'm hesitating on moving out of state during my kids early childhood.

Living in the same neighborhood as your grandparents would be best. I know families that do that, and the payoff is great for the kids, the parents, and the grandparents. The kids love their grandparents, the grandparents love taking care of the kids, and the parents get safe, reliable, and free help. It's a win all around.

It's the way things ought to be.